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At some point in time, if you're male, you'll be in a situation where an unwanted erection will occur. There have been many paragraphs written on the etiquette involved with how to deal with the situation when it happens and of course there are those exhitionist types that live for the moment. For the rest of us, well, it can be embarrassing. Why it's embarrassing is a matter of social norms. Of course it's equated with sexual arousal, yeah, Everytime a guy gets an erection, there's someone they are thinking about or looking at, sure we all know that. (Insert appropriate raspbery sound effect here). Only folks with no understanding of male anatomy would think so. The rest of us wake up with one and realize nature has provided a perfect solution to avoid bedwetting. But, there is still the "is that a banana in your pants, or are just happy to see me" attitude that it's all about sex.
Posting photos with an almost semi-erection happens all the time, but it may not be obvious to everyone. There's an angle that occurs that isn't there without a little extra blood flow. There's a directionality. "What are you pointing at?", may be asked. (You know who you are). For such a natural occurrence, they have such a no-no attitude attached to them.
The equivocation with porn is part of the answer, the prudish nature of society is another, and who knows what else. Whatever reason nudist pages don't want them, or genitals posted with out faces makes sense on one hand, we don't want that floodgate open for fear of the all important wall between sexual nudity and wholesome nudity to be swept away in the deluge of free-for-all exhibitionism that will inevitably follow. But, on the other hand, we're not talking sexually explicit photos or even spread labia photos, we're talking about erections. If they are natural, then why get out of sorts over a photo of a guy in a non-sexual setting, who just happens to be at full mast? Pesronally, I think genitalia is funny looking, sorry, I do. Male or female, it's funny looking. And when you throw in the dumb euphemisms for the penis, tallywhacker, dick, salami, weiner, will, etcetera and the euphemisms for an erection, hard-on, Woody, stiffy, etc.it further eliminated the possibility of keeping a straight face when you discuss any form of sexuality and leads to embarassment when you talk to your doctor. Clinical terminology is just as bad, because it isn't a normal for most people. But I digress, back to the problem of unwanted woodies and how to hide them, wait that wasn't the issue. If we are promoting nudism as a natural and viable lifestyle, then erections should be included in the equation. Not that I plan on getting a chubby at the next hot springs I go to, but if we can get past the automatic association with sex, we can get past the inherent embarrassment when one occurs.
Jack
Well said Tim. However, the majority of society is not as open minded and enlightened. If the naturist society is to gain more acceptance it must takes those steps that bring us forward in that direction. Right or wrong, non-nudists, especially those that are very concerned about what it would do...
  • July 19, 2017
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Richard Anderson
It's a funny old world we see animals with erections and we call that nature and think nothing of it, but when it's a man.......all hell breaks loose !!!
  • July 19, 2017
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MisterNatural
I can't disagree that "it happens," nor that it's perfectly natural (both of which also can be said of sexual activity). However, it's true that some guys do intentionally flaunt their erections. If you're sunning and find yourself getting hard due to the pleasure of the breeze and the warm sun, it ...
  • July 19, 2017
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MrTexas is online.
I agree 100% with this statement of yours: If we want women to feel comfortable and unthreatened (whether they are naked or clothed), we must create environments where they feel respected. We need to value their opinions, feelings, and experiences.
  • July 19, 2017
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Born Naked is online.
Creating an environment where women are respected and don't feel vulnerable would mean working hard for women's rights and equality in society at large, passing the ERA, etc. Here in the U.S.A. we seem to have a hard time letting go of old biases and prejudice. Lots of talk, but people still hold on...
  • July 19, 2017
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MrTexas is online.
I agree!
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SPI Maker is online.
Well said Andy. We live in a world where dark forces of patriarchy that feel threatened by the power of women are working diligently to emasculate the fairer gender by supporting the concept of rape, eliminating a woman's right to have control over her own body, discrimination, sexual objectificati...
  • July 19, 2017
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MrTexas is online.
I agree with your statement: When the nudist environment can be seen as a respectful and safe place for all people, especially women, we have a place to take a stand against misogyny. If we actively promote such a concept, perhaps more women will feel comfortable embracing our values.
  • July 19, 2017
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Timothy Lowe
This is what I wanted, this discussion.
And everybody's response is spot on. The question now is, why are women's bodies revered and men's aren't? Other than Greek statues and Mapplethorpe nudes, the male nude is a rarity in art. We don't get the non-porn photo shoots, outside of nudist magazines. A...
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MrTexas is online.
I don't have the answer other than a species wide culture of heterosexual male domination over a very long period of time.
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SPI Maker is online.
I think you hit it on the head Mr. Texas.
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MisterNatural
Timothy, thank you for understanding that my reply was intended as discussion of your original post, and not as an attack on your opinion. You DID manage to generate an exchange of ideas. I still hope some women will chime in; even your wife's observation about erect nipples came from you, not direc...
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MrTexas is online.
I agree: Moving on to the male nude being a rarity in art.... my husband and I have just returned from a 3-month stay in Italy, where nude male statues are EVERYWHERE! I think it's primarily in North American culture that we see so much bias toward the female form.
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Timothy Lowe
Bias toward and against the female form. That's what happens when sex sells.
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MrTexas is online.
Unfortunately true! So what can we do about it???
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Rich F
My opinion is similar to what myself and many other nudists I know have said about gay. Neither is a threatening situation unless it is over dramatized by the individual. Either can be a perfect normal unless the individual flaunts themselves. It then becomes peculiar, threatening and sometimes redi...
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MisterNatural
I'm curious, Rich.... if a straight man and a gay man both were walking around with erections, whom would you think was flaunting his sexuality? Both? Neither? Or just the gay man?
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Rich F
The erection doesnt determine if the person is gay or straight. The action of the person does.
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Kilgore Trout
My determination as to whether the erection belongs to a straight or gay man is whether the penis winks at me. Penis wink is gay. LOL.
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Born Naked is online.
Haha. No, I think that determines if the viewer is same sex friendly, regardless of who the penis is attached to.
  • July 24, 2017
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Born Naked is online.
I'm also curious Rich, are you comparing "gay" to the exhibitionist boner, or to the discriminated against women who fear the hetero man.
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Rich F
No. Im saying people are accepting of gays. Me included. But. Many over advertise that their gay. The look at me grab attention approach. I feel the same about erections. They dont bother me in the least but dont see a need to over advertise you have one. Im a nudist. I accept people and the body fo...
  • July 21, 2017
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MisterNatural
Please give an example of how someone might "over advertise" being gay. I was at a nude hot springs resort (since closed) that wisely didn't tolerate sexual activity....they seemed to regard a straight couple holding hands as OK, while a gay couple holding hands was somehow too much. Double standard...
  • July 21, 2017
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Born Naked is online.
"Accepting of gays" and treating them as equal human beings are 2 different things, same as accepting blacks but always afraid they are up to no good.
Consider this... the only way to know if a person is gay would be to ask, or if they "act" gay. This is kind of the only way they can let other potent...
  • July 21, 2017
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MrTexas is online.
I was approached once by a gay man at a resort following a nude 5k race. He had put his hand on my leg at dinner and somewhere in the conversation told me he was attracted to older men. I did not go there!!!!
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SomeHuman
Perhaps I can shed some light on the above 'flaunting' and reactions: I've quite a few gay friends and acquaintances. To my experience in several naturist environments, the percentage of gay men there exceeds their part in general. I assume the courage to be openly nude to be a fraction of what they...
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luis afonso assumpcao
Photos are different than real life situations. That´s why photos of naked children are not accepted here as well and they have, indeed, nothing to do with sex.
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Timothy Lowe
Not allowing photos of naked children is not in the same category as no erections. One has a potential of getting someone jail time, no matter how innocent, and the other is an erection. There are plenty of nudist sites that allow naked children photos, but they tend to be European...but this isn't ...
  • July 21, 2017
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luis afonso assumpcao
To pee and and to poo are "natural" either. To be "natural" is not a plain justification for everything.
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Bob Knows
Why not?
  • July 22, 2017
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Bob Knows
"if you're male, you'll be in a situation where an unwanted erection will occur"

I'm not convinced that normal body reactions are entirely "unwanted." I am offended by those who shame men for being male. What is unwanted is the misandry that objects to male bodies.
  • July 22, 2017
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