Patrick Thompson

Who Cares for me, women or men?

Posted on May 17, 2018

I have mentioned on this site previously, I need daily assistance from carers (care givers?) and for several years now  I have been very fortunate to have kept the same 3 young women on rota, who are truly excellent in their work & a real treat to know for their personalities too. One of them is about to go on maternity leave and in a way I’m honoured that she chose to tell me before her employer.

When the senior manager came later to introduce a replacement, I had to reject the person simply because it was a man.  I realise it is controversial & some would say ‘wrong’? but I have always felt that I just cannot let another man do personal tasks for me, I need personal assistance showering and drying, I need creams applying and on some occasions I have bandages put on. I can’t specifically say I don’t want ‘homosexual’ carers because that comes into the realms of discrimination, although I believe that in “very personal care” the companies providing the staff do permit ‘preferences’ to guide who they send.

I don’t truthfully know why I prefer female carers (care givers), it’s just the way I have accepted health care all my life. It never crosses my mind to question the sexuality of my many female carers, is that ok?  I am so confused now, but I still don’t want males caring for me.

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4 thoughts on “Who Cares for me, women or men?”

  1. Why does the sex of your caregiver matter? Just because they are male, doesn’t mean they are gay. Even if they were, what would it matter? It’s a job.

    Having said that, you need to be comfortable with the person giving you care. For me, I personally don’t care what their sex is, I just want them to do a good job. Be it my Dr, chiropractor, or massage therapist.

    Rob

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