First I want to start off by saying how much I appreciate those of you who liked by first bare-bones blog introducing myself to the Naktiv community. As I stated in that fist blog, my name is Grisel Quezada, I am 38 years old, I've been a nudist for over 15 years, I am happily married, and I am mom to three of the greatest kids in the world.
We are a nudist family. There are a lot of connotations that go along with that statement. It seems to bring out the pervs when you state that in a chat room or in a message to another fellow nudist that you are trying to get to know. And truthfully, that bothers the hell out of me. We are no different than any other normal family, other than the fact we don't wear clothes when we are home or at a beach or resort that welcomes nudists.
The main reason we decided to raise our family in this lifestyle goes back to my beginnings as a nudist. I was raised in Guadalajara, Mexico. I was brought up Catholic and was taught that the body was supposed to be hidden, not to be displayed or looked upon for pleasure. As you probably already know, the Catholic faith is excellent at installing a sense of guilt into anything that resembles pleasure. It also led to an extreme sense of low self-esteem in me. I'm not what you consider beautiful by today's ridiculous standards, and because of that I was always thought of as the least pretty one in my family. I have three older sisters who are all endowed with larger breasts than I have. I got the short end of the "titty" stick, as they would say.
I continued to feel this way about myself growing up and into adulthood. It wasn't until I met my husband, a wonderful, patient, and understanding man who taught me the true meaning of beauty. He tried to impart in me an understanding that it doesn't matter what anyone else thought or felt, it's how you feel about yourself that communicates to others how beautiful you are. Don't get me wrong, it took a lot of convincing on his part to get me to even think about going to a nude beach. We started off by being naked at home with each other. It was difficult at first. I just wasn't used to the idea of walking around with no clothing. Seeing my reflection in the mirror and feeling not worthy of his admiration. Whenever I saw myself back then, I would immediately think about how my breasts were too saggy, or my belly was too big. I was so self-conscience about how my breasts were not perky and how my nipples pointed down. Or how big my butt was. All these things were what my husband would tell me were his favorite things about me. I thought he was truly insane!! Everything that I hated about myself, turned him on like you wouldn't believe.
That's what got me thinking that maybe it's how I saw myself that was the problem. We talked more and more about being social with others in a nudist setting. Being that we live in Florida, we have access to plenty of nudist resorts. But I couldn't bring myself to go to one. In the back of my mind, I always thought of swingers when I thought of resorts. So my husband suggested we try Haulover Beach. It was quite a drive for us, over 4 hours to get there. But that day changed my life forever. It took me a little while to get out of the clothes once we got to the beach, but once I did, the feeling a freedom was overwhelming. We met several good friends that day. They all acted around me like they did everyone else. No different for me because my boobs were saggy or my butt looked like cottage cheese. They accepted me as I am and that changed my thoughts about myself. I became confident, self-assured and felt so much better about who I was as a person.
And that's the kind of upbringing we want our kids to have. To be confident in who you are and not feel less than anyone else just because of the way you look. The kids have embraced the lifestyle wholeheartedly. They love being natural just like mom and dad, and to be honest, we struggle to get them to put on clothes when we have to leave the house for any reason.
In my next post, I want to talk more about being a naked mom and what it means to me.
Take care and stay naked!!!