I joined TrueNudists.com several years ago in hopes to find friends to meet and hang out with, but it quickly turned into a sexual atmosphere and I quickly removed myself from it. Searching for a new community to join, I came across this site (Naktiv.net) and joined based solely on the recomendations I've read on the web. I was welcomed by many and thought I had finally found a place where I could meet others in person and enjoy the lifestyle together. ... I couldn't be more wrong.
Granted the people on here are friendly, most everyone hides behind their computer screens and posts photos of themselves posing for the camera. I mean, who in real life follows you around the house, bathroom, garden, or openly "expressing yourself" on the couch/bed every day like a candid or exhibitionist? I don't have people follow me everywhere when I'm out in public! The photos I share online (ie: flickr, facebook, email, etc) are of friends, activities we do, or the locations we've visited; not random shots of us naked.
But here I thought that maybe this was an unfair judgement of the community, and so I gave it a few months more to prove itself... Not so. Now I read about a young man who was judged for his looks and was kicked off the website for this, females being commented rudely and sexually, people not sharing photos for fear that they too might be judged or commented on inappropriately, and no matter how many posts I write asking my "friends" to meet and hang out in person, not a single one has responded.
This website, other than the somewhat strict rules (which even the mods don't follow) and website viewing privacy, is just like any other, including TrueNudists.com.
I have been an avid outdoor nudist since I was introduced to it in 2006 by a close friend of mine. I choose not to be naked indoors because frankly I can't due to the living arangements I have, and would rather be around others than be by myself alone. I've attempted to meet others outside this website, and have even been successful with meeting people on Craigslist (of all places) which promotes more sex than anything. And ya know what? The people I've met on Craigslist were more welcoming and friendly towards me than any of the people I've "met" on here. That's sad.
I now understand why people have left this site, and I may follow suit very soon. It's not what I expected, and the content is certainly not something I'd want my children to see. The rape joke that was posted a while back was the pushing point, but the rude and uncalled-for comments on Holly's photos (as well as a few others) made the decision for me.
With that said, I'm quite done here. The site is nothing but a private page to post photos yourself in an exhibitionist fashion, and the events page is a joke. If I wanted the content I see here, I would have remained a member of TN or joined a sex group online.
If this is what nudism is really all about, then I have it all wrong and wish not to be a part of it anymore.
I have nothing more to say. Quite a shame really...