I am happily and unapologetically not a nudist. I've never in my life considered myself a nudist, and though I have tried at times to comprehend and understand the nudist mentality, I simply can't. As such I'm not one of those "like-minded" people.
The truth of the matter is I simply can't accept that there is anything shameful about nakedness or even sex for that matter. To me they are enjoyable, healthy wholesome activities. I have always been bemused that humans, who are after all, merely highly evolved apes, have acquired such a confused disdain for something that is so natural and normal. If I had to sum up my thoughts about attitudes towards both these items, I'd have to say that most humans suffer from a kind of mental illness that prevents them from appreciating what these things actually are. Enjoyable.
I've always been a bit distressed by people's obsession with nakedness, and sex for that matter. The need to view it, display it, and their inclination to pine for it. This to me has always been a symptom of the illness I mentioned. Inherent body shame is of course another notable symptom.
The reason for writing about any of this at all, relates to the fact I've been curing myself of this illness for the last four years. It's been an interesting journey. The most recent aspect of it, is having somewhat cured myself, it's now been possible to cure my wife of this illness. Something I never thought possible given the degree to which she had the illness.
If I had to pinpoint one symptom above all else, it would be mental attitude. As soon as you idolise sex or nudity, you immediately have a problem. Idolising either causes you to abhor something, or consider it sacred. Sex and nudity are neither of those things. No other animal on the planet idolises these things other than humans. Look at the messed up values we've acquired because of it. Women dressed head to toe with every part of their bodies covered because they are deemed sexual objects. At the opposite extreme, men paying women to strip naked. Advertisers exploiting people's unhealthy obsession with body image, nakedness and sex to sell all manner of things.
When it's necessary to say "non-sexual nudity" that underpins the extent to which this illness prevails. To the same extent I can't buy into personal body shame, neither can I buy into the asexuality that many in the nudist movement strive to promote. Are naked bodies sexual? Not in and of themselves. Is it possible for a naked body to be sexually arousing and aroused? Yes, of course. This is perfectly natural and normal!
The saddest aspect of all this, is the fact we all pass this sickness onto our children as it was inherited by us from the majority of our parents, culture and society. I don't know how long this illness will prevail. One thing is for certain, it's future generations that have the cure. A generation that see themselves for what they are. Healthy wholesome human beings who have no shame of themselves or others. Nor shame of what they are capable of feeling and enjoying.
To those who have a spouse that is reluctant to participate or understand, I would say if you're able to cure yourself of your own mental illness; and can acquire the skill of open communication, then you have a chance.
Don't say to others you're a nudist. Tell them you're a human 🙂