What are the reasons that lead a person to not embrace naturism if the latter was offered him? This is the question I asked myself. Having partially gone around the classic question why to be a nudist, or what drives people to being naked socially, I think it is important to understand the motivations of the "textile" to remain so.
In order to understand where I found the arguments that I will explain below, it is important to know that my wife is not naturist, although she respects my nakedness and accompanies me on nudist beaches, where she generally keeps a swimsuit bottom. We have often talked about naturism. I also often tried to convince her to undress more often and consider naturist holidays together. I did however not (yet) succeed. But I don’t give up, someday, I will succeed.
This being said, here are the main reasons for refusing the naturism.
- Not wanting to expose her naked body, nudity is something private.
- Being comfortable with clothes, including a wet swimsuit.
- Not feeling, not rationally understanding the need to be naked.
- Binding nudity and sexuality, so leaving both in the private sphere.
- Seeing clothes as a differentiating element between human and animal.
- Not standing the sight of bare body.
- Being afraid to be judged by others.
- Not being sufficiently "well made" to undress.
- Being afraid of the excitement caused by the sight of other naked bodies.
In the end, one can consolidate these reasons under three themes:
- Belief - related to the "you cannot do this", religious or not.
- Trust - linked to the imperfection of his own body.
- Feeling - linked to the fact that we feel no particular wellbeing when we're naked.
If it is possible to influence belief and confidence, by reason and explanation, the feeling seems to be more delicate.
Beliefs can evolve. To a believer, you will always find a text that does not ostracized nudity and so create doubt, and have the dogma to be doubted. With a non-believer, it is possible to understand his refusal and to demonstrate that the opposite is also true. It seems possible, with patience and conviction, to turn off the “you cannot do this”.
Confidence is built with patience and gentleness. Self-confidence is a funny animal. By making a person aware that perfection is not of this world and that she must love her body, we can make her enjoy her imperfections, big or small, and gradually bring her to no longer be afraid to look in a mirror. So, to potentially accept the gaze of the other.
With respect to the feeling, the question seems different. The main reason why a nudist is naked is wellness. For my part, I never feel as good as while completely naked. This is no rational explanation, I feel well, full stop! If someone does not feel this well-being, how to make him feel? Certainly not by forcing him to get naked. This is the strategy that I set up with my wife. As long as I can be naked, she may be dressed in full respect for the choices of each other. On the other hand, when I am naked at the pool or I am having an activity naked, I share that I feel super good naked and that she should enjoy being naked too. She sometimes undress, slipping naked into the water of the pool for my greatest happiness, or stroll through the house in her birthday suit.
Over time, it is possible that the sensation of well-being of nudity settled in and that she sees "the light." I think that it is only with respect and deep listening that one can bring a reluctant textile to become a nudist. In the meantime, I remain naked.