A while ago, I wrote the following message to a variety of individuals. Because I was struggling with the nudist inside of me and I just couldn't handle the amount of stress I was causing myself.
"To whom it may concern:
I write to the authors of this blog/site in an attempt to find acceptance and to seek out advice. With that said, I have a very simple question...
How does one gain acceptance for their lifestyle choices without being thrown into the fires?
I am sorry, that question is way to broad of a subject to begin. So, I will offer some background, before I delve deeper into the question. As far as I can remember, and that is pretty far, I have always been comfortable with being nude. Now as a grown up who can rationalize grown up thoughts, I feel nudity as a sense of freedom, and for lack of better word, it feels pure.
I love being naked, I love being outdoors naked, I love to swim naked, I love to hike, garden and be naked. To me, there is no better sense of being than, being nude. I spend as much time as I can naked because it just feels natural.
Fortunate for me, I have a wife who understands this need, and allows me the freedom to express that need when ever I feel. She enjoys that same freedom, but is a lot more refined in her desires to express them, which is OK. I accept her comfort levels and I never pressure her, I may encourage her, but I know when the limit will be set.
So how does one move beyond hiding nudism? How does one begin to openly announce they enjoy nudism to their friends, family, colleagues and other social groups without becoming a social pariah? I understand there is nothing wrong with nudity. I do, however, know that the people that I associate with on a fairly regular basis would sooner judge me a sexual deviant than as a free spirit.
I envy the courage of those who have gone before me who have thrown caution to the wind and I need to know, how do I get to that step?"
I received few replies, and I can understand why. This was a tall order to fill, so to speak. If this question were posed to me now, I would reply something to the effect of "It's different for everybody, and you need to find which way works best for you that still allows you to be who you are and want to be."
There is no way to avoid becoming the social pariah, you have to express yourself at a level that is comfortable for the environment you are in. I have come to understand that my town will not accept me if I were to walk around town nude. I would, without a doubt be arrested on the spot. This is not something that I wish to have happen to me and I do not wish to put my son in a position where he will need to explain his fathers actions. My willingness and want to be nude "all the time" is going to be what is morally right.
Fortunate for me, I am still very young, and my son will be 18 very shortly. My wife and I will have plenty of time to get out and explore the world for all that it has to offer. Nude and clothed. Nudism will always be a part of me and I have just learned when to take advantage of every chance to rip of my repressive clothes. If that means for the time being that is the comfort of my home, and when I go camping/hiking then that's where it needs to stay for now.